At any rate, when I got off the with her, I was crying. My kids were clearly a little freaked out. They know VM and her family, so I was honest with them about why I was upset and after answering five hundred questions they seemed OK. Princess Frostine made a point to say that she had only seen me cry one time before. It was when our beloved nanny had her last day with our family and I cried when she left.
It has all made me think about what emotions I express in front of my kids. My mom rarely showed her emotions in front of us. She sugar coated everything from our sliced bananas to her feelings. She still does. I don't think this is necessarily the right approach. I am not one to shed tears often, so I think it made my kids feel insecure, but the more we talked about it, I could see their fears lifting. I think it's good for them to see that I was upset for my friend and we talked about what we can do to help her. Mr. Mint and I are not always good about hiding our arguments from them. If I am really angry, I just can't wait until they go to bed to *ahem* express it to him.
One of the reasons I started this blog is so that my kids can read it someday and get a window into my memories of these times. Do you shield your emotions from your kids? If you argue in front of them do you make a point to let them see you "work it out?" Leave your thoughts in the "comments" section below (all two of you who read this).
And VM, you know I will do anything for you and I'll be here for you, your family and your dad in the coming weeks.